These
are the main components of a positive attitude and, hence, the keys to
success. LetÕs examine each one:
First,
Be RealisticÑToo many people live in a
dream world of their own making.
They operate on myths and false assumptionsÑÒEverything always works
outÓÉÓSomehow IÕll get by.Ó It
doesnÕt, and you wonÕt. To make
oneÕs way in the world, one needs to be prepared. Ours is the land of opportunity but only for those who are
prepared. For the unprepared,
there is always minimum wage.
Being realistic prepares us to do what we must if we are to be
successful. The unrealistic think
it is as easy to be a success as it is to be a failure. The truth is that it is much easier to
be a failureÑto be a success we must work hard and keep working hard. To be a failure all one needs to do is
to give up. Knowing the road may
be steep will never deter those who really want to succeed.
Second,
Be ConfidentÑThis requires having faith
and pride in oneself. If you say
ÒI canÕt,Ó I guarantee you this:
ÒYou wonÕt.Ó It is as
simple as that. Remember the
nursery story of the little engine who thought he couldÑmuch of life and school
is a self-fulfilling prophesy. The
best advice is contained in four simple words: ÒYou can do it.Ó
Third,
Be OptimisticÑThe successful individual
sees the clear probability of success when he or she looks into the
future. Plan on successÑlook at
the best-case scenario to motivate you.
I want you to know that I am the worldÕs second greatest optimist. You ask, ÒWho is Number One?Ó I say that would be General George
Custer. Here was a man, surrounded
by 4,000 Indians, who told his men, ÒDonÕt take any prisoners.Ó Now, IÕve got to concede to that man!
Fourth,
Be EnthusiasticÑNo great venture was
ever accomplished without enthusiasm.
This is not to say that everything you are called upon to do will be
something you are excited about.
The key to success often involves taking Òhave toÓ situations and
turning them into Òwant toÓ ones.
The successful person develops in himself or herself an ability to get
so involved in what he or she is doing that it becomes interesting and
exciting.
Next,
Be PersistentÑIf there is one sure sign
of a winner, it is persistence.
The history of success is filled with individuals who labored long and
hard, who suffered repeated setbacks but refused to give up. I am reminded of the man who
interviewed for an important job.
The interviewer told him to check back in three months. He did, only to be told to check back
in another month. Again, he was
told to check back some weeks later.
Finally, the man said to himself that he would give it one last shot and
called back again. To his surprise
he was told that the interviewer had been expecting his call and he had the
job. Later the interviewer showed
him a desk calendar on which the callback dates were jotted down. The man got the position because he was
persistent. The lesson here is
simple: DonÕt give up easily.
Lastly,
Be HumbleÑThere will always be someone
smarter than you from whose successes a lesson can be learned. You can even learn from the mistakes of
those not as smart or gifted as you.
DonÕt overestimate your own importance. This reminds me of the five guys on an airplane, the
President, the Vice President, the Secretary of State, a pastor and a
hippie. To make a long story
shortÑthe plane had engine trouble, and there were only four parachutes; one of
them would have to die with the plane as it went down. They were trying to decide and
rationalize to see who would die.
The President said, ÒIÕve got to go, IÕm President of the country.Ó They said, ÒYouÕre right,Ó and he
jumped. The Vice President said,
ÒIÕve got to go; if he doesnÕt make it, the country is depending on me.Ó They said, ÒYouÕre right,Ó and he
jumped. The Secretary of State
grabbed a parachute and, just as he was going out the door, said, ÒIÕm the
smartest man in the world,Ó and he jumped. The pastor looked at the hippie and said, ÒSon, you go. IÕve lived a full life.Ó The hippie replied, ÒOh, donÕt worry
about it, Rev. The smartest man in
the world just jumped out that door with my knapsack on his back.Ó
You
can think yourself too smart! The person who is humble is open to new
approaches and imaginative strategies.
The arrogant individual is limited by his thinking that he has all the
answers. He has failed to learn
the lesson that Òpride cometh before the fall.Ó His will be a painful education.
To
my six Bs I would add two more: Be
Good and Be Happy.
Be
GoodÑThe price of success must never be
your self-respect or your integrity.
Never do anything that would compromise you in the eyes of your parents
and your family. On your road to
the top, donÕt lose your sense of moral worth and fair play. Scripture cautions us, ÒWhat does it
matter if a man gains the whole world and loses his soul.Ó
Be
HappyÑLife is a precious gift to be
enjoyed. It is something to be
shared in friendships and enriched by reflection and introspection. Enjoy!